Stability Isn’t the Same as Flow

For a long time, I thought stability and good communication were enough…that if you worked hard at a relationship, flow and connection would naturally follow.

But they don’t.
Not always.

Sometimes two people can share affection, safety, and even intimacy… and still miss the spark that makes everything feel alive.

That kind of flow doesn’t come from effort alone, there’s a deeper layer of nervous-system compatibility that has to exist.
Mutual affection doesn’t equal reciprocal energy. For example, you can have all the intimate facets (touch, talk, connection), yet still lack the spark of play or a sense of moving forward together. Sometimes a relationship can feel emotionally rich, yet subtly draining, if for example, playfulness is missing and is the thing that makes you feel most alive.

I used to make decisions top-down: over-analysing data, drawing insights, reasoning my way through everything. These days, it’s more bottom-up…the collection of experiences either feels right or doesn’t. Sometimes you know immediately; other times you have to let it unfold until you feel certain of the path. And we’ve all been in situations where our intuition knew the answer long before our intellect caught up.

These days, I don’t analyse connection as much.
I just notice whether my body relaxes or braces.
Whether things flow…or don’t.

That usually tells me everything I need to know.

Some comments I found:

  • Credentials and money are not antidotes to the lingering effects of childhood maltreatment.
  • Life is a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death. Many turn their backs to the table and complain how hungry they are and that there is nothing they can eat. They will stand between you and the banquet for however long you let them. So relieve yourself of them by whatever means necessary.
  • One cannot satisfy a thirst by drinking sea water
  • I’m tired of paying taxes to a government that doesn’t represent me, and is actively working against me.
  • The word democracy makes people feel safe…but it doesn’t exist. People are a labor force, that need a kind, but firm hand. There are not nations. There’s Apple, Exxon, and Berkshire Hathaway. Corporations are the real superpower. [Victoria Neumann, The Boys tv series]
  • The entire world is run as an economic machine, constructed with no regard for the collective good of humanity.

We should remove the ability of housing to become an asset class. Perhaps foreigners can co-own property with the government, rather than own it. Or if it’s empty, they have to legally fill it with someone vetted by a neutral organisation, at a competitive market rate.

I think government should maintain a stake in property developments rather than be removed from the equation entirely once the land is sold. The upside can preserve the governments ability to continue funding housing and community developments, repairs and upgrades. Though the private developers should be culpable financially for a set period of time.

Unfinished thoughts. Trying to balance capitalist market tendencies with protections against overreach and exploitation (environmental, societal, cultural, everything).

A Useful Banking App Idea

What if managing warranties felt as easy as noticing what matters?
What if your banking app lets you mark the important purchases, snap or attach the receipt, set the return or warranty end date, and you’re done. No hunting through emails, no guessing policies, no “I think it’s still covered?” panic.

It solves a quiet, expensive leak: we forget where receipts live, we miss return windows, and we rarely claim warranties we already have. It turns, what was once, scattered paperwork into calm, simple clarity.

The upside is practical and emotional: fewer lost ££s, fewer last-minute scrambles, and more confidence that you can repair or replace when life happens. Light touch, clear reminders, and peace of mind when it counts.

Without advertisements, the internet would only have content worth paying for and content people want to share for reasons other than financial gain.

How awful
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The world reflects your own feelings back at you. Reality is neutral. Reality has no judgements.

How much perfume should one use?

Well, it should be a reward for intimacy, not a punishment for proximity.

We only accept, believe, and surrender to the thoughts that are equal to our emotional state.

I’m Curious about…

Batteries. What’s happening in there? What makes the ions move through the electrolyte?

In simple terms, ions move through the electrolyte in a battery due to a difference in electrical potential (voltage) between the anode and cathode.

  1. Chemical Reactions: At the anode, a chemical reaction releases ions and electrons. These ions want to move to the cathode where they can react and achieve a more stable state.
  2. Electric Potential Difference: This movement is driven by the difference in electric potential (voltage) between the anode and cathode. The anode is at a higher energy state compared to the cathode.
  3. Electrolyte: The electrolyte provides a pathway for ions to move from the anode to the cathode while keeping the electrons separate. The electrons travel through an external circuit, generating electric current.

…So the electrons are powering my clock, and the ions are moving from the anode to the cathode in the background – presumably for no benefit to me and my clock?

Yes, the electrons directly power the clock, but the movement of ions from the anode to the cathode is essential for the overall function of the battery.

  1. Maintaining Charge Balance: As electrons leave the anode and flow through your clock, positive ions are left behind. These positive ions need to move to the cathode to balance the charge and maintain the flow of electrons.
  2. Completing the Circuit: The movement of ions in the electrolyte completes the electrical circuit within the battery. Without this movement, the chemical reactions at the anode and cathode would stop, halting the flow of electrons and, consequently, the power to the clock.
  3. Sustaining Chemical Reactions: The continuous movement of ions enables ongoing chemical reactions at the electrodes. This process sustains the generation of electrons, which keeps the clock running.